You Want It — You Got It!
So we’ve established what created living is and we’ve talked about factors that play in to your created reality. This week I want to talk about how to frame things specific to language. Our language creates our reality and one of the reasons I fell in love with and trained myself extensively in neuro-linguistic programming and ontological coaching is exactly this - the ability to support people in seeing their default, stepping outside of it and creating their fuck yes life.
So to start the process of created living you must acknowledge the fact you are always creating your reality, your reality is 100% of your creation and if this is news to you, consider you’ve always been running on default (hello subconscious). This is great news. Knowing you are 100% responsible for your reality means you can in fact have any reality you can dream up, and now.
So this week let’s talk about language and it’s role in creating your reality. In any of the work I do, the first step is awareness. So to start off this week observe how you speak. What language are you using? What are you talking about? Who are you talking to? There are so many layers and noticing is where access to the new begins.
When you start to notice your reality, and notice that in fact you long for more, human default is to start talking about what you don’t want, don’t have, are a no to. STOP. The human brain is unable to take the negative and shift what follows. If you say “I don’t want to be tired anymore” your brain only hears tired. If you say “I don’t want a job that drains me” all your brain registers is job that drains me. So if you are looking to create a new reality, consider slowing down and focusing on what you do want vs what you don’t.
Let’s start by those two examples above. “I don’t want to be tired anymore” become “I’m blessed to wake up rested and stay energized through the day”. Do you feel the difference? So does your body and brain! “I don’t want a job that drains me” becomes “I’m grateful to have a job that is fulfilling and brings magic to my life”. Cool right!
What you focus on your find, language creates reality, and you are on auto-pilot.
Slow down and catch yourself, and correct yourself.
Another place language plays a huge role is in your conversations with others. What topics are being discussed, what are you talking about, what’s the focus. If you are the sum of the people you spend the most time with, and those people are constantly complaining, gossiping, living in the past, chances are you will stay stuck just like them.
It’s powerful to create rules for yourself for what you are and aren’t available for when it comes to conversation. Will you participate in gossip? Will you sit around and listen to all that’s going wrong in the world? Will you continue to listen to complaints for weeks, months, years and never see a focus on solutions? It’s up to you and it absolutely affects your created life.
So you’re looking now at how you’re using language, knowing what you speak is creating your reality. You’re also becoming aware of the company you keep and what’s discussed. Let’s talk now about the world around you and what you listen to day in and day out. Whether it’s the background noise at work, or the radio station commentary, maybe it’s the evening news or the latest Netflix binge series, even music is something to consider. You can master the language you speak, you can surround yourself with brilliant aligned friends and community who life you speak magic into the world, and then drive home listening to song lyrics that aren’t aligned to flop onto the couch and watch a show that is a world you would never step foot in. We think we’re unplugging, we call it entertainment or education, and it may be - question to ask yourself in any moment is “is it?” You will notice seasons and things will change along the journey. In any moment ask yourself if what i’m surrounding myself with, is what I’m hearing, supporting the reality I’m committed to living in?
Is your brain whirling? Good! I’m here to have as many humans as possible discover their default and step outside of it to powerfully create their fullest expressed magic life.
Grateful you’re here and living a big life!
